“What Do You Do?”

From across the noisy table, what I heard, “What do you do?”

I then quickly blurted out, “I’m an attorney!”

This came after all-day discussions of my newly-announced pregnancy at a recent wedding.  People are so excited about babies and pregnancy, and let’s face it – it is arguably more interesting than ‘law talk.’

But I didn’t realize just how much it was wearing on me until I misheard the woman ask me, “What do you do?”

What she actually said? “When are you due?”

I was embarrassed at my response not because I am a lawyer, but because it appeared I was way too excited about it.  When in fact, I was just excited to answer a question that didn’t have to do with my growing uterus.

It reminded me of another attorney at my firm. She recently got engaged and commented on how people perceive this as one’s greatest accomplishment in life.  She wants to shout at people and say, “I am more than a soon-to-be wife!  I have accomplished a lot in my life!”

I felt like her in that moment – I am more than a soon-to-be mom!  I am a woman, a wife, a professional, a friend, sister, a daughter, a concert-going foodie, traveler, and so much more…oh, and I also happen to be five months pregnant.  This, I imagine, is just the beginning of my changing identity…

I hope to explore my ever-changing life as I approach motherhood, and after.  There will likely be times of tears, joy, and hardships.  I hope this blog brings some insight to myself…and may be helpful to others who will share in my journey…or maybe at the very least be entertaining at times.

We dive so deep into our clients’ lives during the estate-planning process or after a loved-one’s death, and they know nothing about us personally.  Although I will touch on some legal-related thoughts when relevant, this and the other attorney blogs at Eckert Byrne are so you can get to know us better.  Who we are – not just lawyers, but so much more.

3 thoughts on ““What Do You Do?”

  1. Congrats Kris…on the newcomer and on the blog.

    I do think there is a huge difference between becoming engaged and being someone’s wife versus being pregnant and becoming someone’s mom. Being a mom is harder than any exam I’ve ever studied for or test I’ve ever taken.

    It is constantly changing. …and just when you think you’ve mastered it….along comes another challenge/change/nuance.

    I also find it increasingly challenging to be a great mom. …a loving partner and home maker. ….and a kick ass professional who takes care of her own health and well being. At the end of the day, being a mom trumps all.

  2. OMG. Loved reading your first blog. I’m so proud of you, of course, as my daughter, but also as a successful attorney who has a special gift to make those around you feel calm and comfortable. You and Johnny have a unique partnership and will make awesome parents. Look forward to reading your blog.

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